There's a story told about a company hiring truck drivers to drive dynamite through the mountains. They brought in the first driver to interview him and ask him one question: “How close can you get to the edge of the road without going over the edge?" He said confidently, “Five feet."
A second driver was interviewed and was asked the same question to which he replied, even more confidently, “Two feet."
A third driver was brought in and asked the same question. This one, rather than answering with confidence, looked puzzled. Finally, he answered hesitantly, "I don’t know. I never try to get close to the edge of the road.” He got the job.
When it comes to the commandments of Christ and the tradition of the Church far too many people are like the first two drivers: they want to see how close to the edge they can get without going over. The commandments of Christ and teachings of the Church for these folks are like boundaries, edges, and borders that exist to limit their freedom. And so they reluctantly keep them, if they keep them at all, but are constantly pushing up again them, seeing how close they can get without going over the line.
The primary problem with this way of thinking is, of course, that it approaches the Commandments and teachings of the Church as if they were a list of do’s and don'ts. Never mind that this way of thinking isn’t remotely spiritual, it doesn’t even rise to the level of basic morality. Instead it approaches the commandments of Christ and the Tradition of the Church the same way it would approach a set of traffic rules . And in that standpoint we are AOK as long as we don't cross over the line. So long as we do no wrong we are in the right.
This viewpoint is, not surprisingly, a long way from the Gospel and from the teaching of our Lord. Think, for example, how often the Lord tells parables that indicate quite clearly that God is not going to be content on Judgment Day with our simply having done nothing wrong. As a case in point consider the parable of the sower in which those are saved are those who bear fruit: "some thirtyfold, some sixty, and some a hundred.”
Even more to the point consider the parable in Matt. 25.14-30 about the master who went away and left his servants with different amounts of money ("talents"). The one who buried his talent and then returned the same amount to his master when he returned had his talent taken from him and was thrown out of the Master’s house into outer darkness. “For to everyone who has, more will be given, and he will have abundance; but from him who does not have, even what he has will be taken away.”
When God created man in the beginning, man and woman, he told them to be fruitful and multiply. This does not just apply to childbearing but to man's nature and calling to be productive and fruitful. And Christ's commandments are the key to this bearing fruit, for they are the path to virtue, and virtue is the fruit of the grace of the Holy Spirit in our lives.
We would do well to recall the well-known story from the Sayings the Desert Fathers.
With love in Christ,
“Give me a word!”
If you would be simple-hearted like the Apostles, would not conceal your human shortcomings, would not pretend to be especially pious, if you would walk free from hypocrisy, then that is the path. While it is easy, not everyone can find it or understand it. This path is the shortest way to salvation and attracts the grace of God. Unpretentiousness, guilelessness, frankness of soul - this is what is pleasing to the Lord, Who is lowly of heart. Except ye become like children, ye shall not enter into the Kingdom of God (Matt. 18:13).
~Elder Leonid of Optina
Love never hates anyone, never reproves anyone, never condemns anyone, never grieves anyone, never abhors anyone, neither faithful nor infidel nor stranger nor sinner nor fornicator, nor anyone impure, but instead it is precisely sinners, and weak and negligent souls that it loves more, and feels pain for them and grieves and laments, and it feels sympathy for the wicked and sinners, more than for the good, imitating Christ Who called sinners, and ate and drank with them. For this reason, showing what real love is, He taught saying, `Become good and merciful like your Father in Heaven,' and as He rains on bad and good and makes the sun to rise on just and unjust alike, so also is the one who has real love, and has compassion, and prays for all.